ok I guess It was too late.....
I installed windows with a few unsucessful boot attempts
the 64 bit vista recognized the 6 gigs of RAM installed
the computer wouldnt boot up untill I had disconnected the power from the back. After that I needed to reconnect it and then the computer would boot.
I used windows to flash the BIOS but the windows update caused the computer to reboot and now I ws stuck with a dead mobo cuz I think the BIOS update was some how interrupted when I repeatedly pushed the reset button out of anger of not getting any display every time I tried to reboot the machine
Now Ive downloaded the recovery BIOS file from INTEL and will attempt to do it by their method.
If it doesnt work then Im taking the system back to my reseller and asking him to replace the board and give me a one with an updated BIOS.....