yea none of that worked. I had already tried that, port forwarding does make the xbox not say that i have my nat to strict but when i try to do my dmz it says that my nat is strict again. I think it is because I got this new modem and it has a tighter firewall then my previous modem.
I think I am just going to try and use my old modem again and see how that goes. I just ordered a D-Link router as well just to try something new. for the $ i gave for it i will hope that it does a little better.
Thanks anyways I guess.
Edit: tonight or tomorrow I am going to try and set up port forwarding and a static ip on both my modem and my router and see if that helps at all..